When it comes to finding someone through dating sites, being able to learn as much as you can about her in as short of a time as possible is one of the most important talents to cultivate. Not only does this help you sort through the myriad of profiles to find the women that suit you best, but it also helps you after you have agreed to meet up by minimizing the amount of time you have to spend before knowing if this is something that is going to work out at all. Whether it involves dissecting her favorite genres, or simply making the most of any other tidbit of information she doles out, focus not only on what she says, but what that says about her and you will avoid a good deal of heart ache later on. There are plenty of fish is the sea for you, so never let a heartbreak upset you.
Fiction Vs. Non-fiction
One of the biggest differences in genres, particularly books, is whether she is primarily interested in fiction or nonfiction. This is the difference between the Sci Fi geek and the history buff, and can really explain a lot about her outlook and expectations. Someone who is more interested in reading about the history of London over the latest romance novel, for example, is going to be a lot more down to earth than the girl into the latter. Women that show considerable interest in non-fiction pieces, you can expect to avoid quite a bit of drama that often comes from less grounded personalities. If, however, you are more of a dreamer than a doer, a non-fiction preference might be a warning sign that the two of you are going to clash considerably throughout the relationship. Even though we are often told about how well opposites work in a relationship, reality is not nearly as kind, so be aware of not only what the genre says about her, but how it affects you.
Along those lines, a preference for fiction over non-fiction does not necessarily mean that she is going to have her head in the clouds the entire time. It does, however, mean she prefers new things and change. This is a relationship that will thrive on switching things up and trying things out, but by the same token will face a harder time if you happen to be someone who prefers sticking with what you know works. Again, make sure you not only walk away with information about her, but the knowledge of how knowing that is going to affect any relationship that might follow. In the end, it’s about you and her together, after all, not just her.
Preferring Movies to Books
Another diving category, though not necessarily a genre, is whether she prefers movies or books. This does not only apply to books that have been made into movies, either. What we mean is, given the choice of either reading a book or watching a movie, which would she take? When it comes to dating sites, this might not make much of a difference, but when you hook up afterwards, you can expect this to make a very large difference in not only what you end up doing, but how much time you spend together overall. This is because a preference for movies or books boils down to more than simply how she likes to witness a story unfold. It says a good deal about her personal hobbies, activities, and personality.
Say, for example, she is a book person. Before you really get into the pros and cons of books versus movies, consider that she is probably more detail oriented than the arm chair film critic and really gets a lot of enjoyment out of picking up on the nitty gritty parts of a story. Overall, the bookworm is also more likely to prefer being alone, though not antisocial and will be easier to deal with when it comes to maintaining a relationship that involves spending a decent amount of time apart. The movie preference, however, usually means she is going to be more into presentation than anything else. She wants the overview, the pulled back perspective on things. Film tries to tell the same stories as books, but often in a much shorter time. This makes the overarching themes much more important than marking out all of the details. If your potential fling shows a preference for movies, she is probably less interested in small talk and more in action.
Sci-fi Vs. Fantasy
This is a fine difference between fictional sub-genres, but important all the same. Sci-fi, for example, is often referred to as fantasy without magic. Preferring one over the other is going to tell you more about her than her favorite restaurant in London ever will. Fantasy lovers thrive on something different. They love change, trying out new things and becoming completely engrossed in a tale. They are more likely to spend their time dissecting a good story for its plot, and wanting to know about the grand scheme of things than the nitty gritty. She seeks the creative and the otherworldly because she wants something different, so impressing her might take some extra work with dating ideas and locations, but is overall pretty workable.
The Sci-fi aficionado, however, likes the broad, otherworldly concepts one might find in fantasy, but backed up logically. Sci-fi uses science in place of magic and typically does so in a way that focuses more on the characters themselves and humanity as a condition than fantasy ever will. Whereas fantasy is all about new worlds, great adventures and grand events, Sci-fi tends to focus more on the characters themselves as allegory for the rest of humanity. A preference for science fiction simultaneously makes her more grounded in the present and more interested in the details of life and people around her. She is going to want to involve you in most things she does, and hold more substantial conversations than just talking about the weather, or whatever happens to be the topic of the moment. If that appeals to you, make the leap for a sci-fi girl.
Biographies, Autobiographies and Memoirs vs Thrillers, Mystery and Suspense
While this might seem like one last application of fiction versus non-fiction, keep in mind that these are all people oriented genres. Much like dating sites are a particular kind of online dating service, so too are each of these specific types of fiction and non-fiction that are primarily focused on the people involved. Women who are really into biographies, memoirs and the like are both naturally curious and primarily concerned with the current world as it affects them. That means they tend to be the more down to earth of these categories. They want to know more about what is and was than what could be. In comparison, you have the thrillers, mysteries and suspense novels designed to keep their readers guessing, engaged, and thrilled. Anything that gets the adrenaline going and really engages the mind is what really draws people to these categories. Dating someone with these preferences often means appealing to her intellect and always taking the time to acknowledge her opinion before giving your own.
